Five Leadership Gifts from 2011

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In the spirit of the season, here are five posts from 2011 which I believe you will find helpful.

1. Prepare Today

This powerful guest post from Wally Bock is poignant on two different levels. First, it is a guest post for leadership blogger Dan Rockwell who recently suffered a terrible accident and now faces a lengthy recovery. Second, it features the story of Bishop Hanns Lilje, a man imprisoned in World War II Nazi prison camps. He is quoted in the post: "“When they knock on your door, it’s too late to prepare.”

2. Our Deepest Craving

I frequently write about how important it is for leaders to demonstrate gratitude and appreciation. Kevin Eikenberry offers a strong message in this vein, beginning with a quote from William James: "The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated."

3. Ten Time Management Tips

This post from Gayle Thorson is oriented toward busy nonprofit communicators, but the advice is straightforward and helpful for any developing leader.

4. The Top Ten Lies Leaders Believe

Earlier in the year before his injury, Dan Rockwell posted this excellent list of traps leaders can easily fall into.

5. The Science of Creating the Perfect Mentor: An 8-Step Process

Scott Dinsmore of Live Your Legend emphasizes the importance of mentors in your leadership journey. I appreciate this post because it reinforces how to find the right people to help you and how you can care for them in turn.

I hope you enjoy these posts and benefit from them as much as I have!

Take care,

David M. Dye

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Book Review: Mandela's Way

Today's book review is Mandela's Way: Fifteen Lessons on Life, Love, and Courage written by Richard Stengel.

In his introductory remarks, Stengel refers to Nelson Mandela as possibly the "last pure hero on the planet". Despite the laudatory remarks, one of the best things about this book is the it takes a realistic look at such a hero. 

There is no doubt that Mandela is an amazing human being who has helped his country and the world as a whole. Even so, Stengel does not shy away from showing Nelson's humanity. The hero of this book is not a picture-perfect cutout, but a human being who has suffered and learned so much - yet remains human in ways every reader can relate to.

For those who are beginning their leadership journey this book is an encouraging read. Nelson's leadership strengths are described in ways that make them accessible to newer leaders, but the depth of suffering and pain that forged the leader he became is also clear. 

Nelson's journey is relevant to everyone who wants to make the world a better place, even if the reader will not spend thirty years in prison for her ideals.

In his own preface to the book, Mandela talks of ubuntu, the African notion that "we are human only through the humanity of others." This profound humility is much of what makes Mandela an effective leader and also Mandela's Way a strongly suggested read for aspiring leaders.

Happy Reading,

David M. Dye

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Are You Too Nice?

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Mean or Strict?

When I taught high school students, periodically a student would tell me: "Mister, you're mean."

I often replied: "I'm not mean. I'm strict. I care about you too much to let you [fill in the blank]."

Real Caring

I believe effective leaders care for the people they lead.

However, it is easy to confuse caring with being pleasant. They are not the same thing. As with those students who interpreted guidance I knew to be in their best interest as "mean", you may encounter an inner voice (or even a team member's voice) that tells you you're not being nice when you act in the best interests of another person.

Truly caring for another person will at times mean saying something that is unpleasant for them to hear and which you don't particularly enjoy saying.

You can say it firmly, you can say it kindly, you can maintain your respect for the other person, and you can reinforce their dignity. All these are desirable. Nonetheless, it may not feel nice or agreeable.

And yet, providing this feedback and helping a team member understand the negative consequences of their actions may be the most caring thing you ever do for some people. It gives them a chance to grow and experience more of life.

Are You Too Nice?

If being agreeable and getting along with your team is preventing you from addressing uncomfortable subjects, the answer is yes.

You are preventing your team members from growing and you are reducing your credibility with your team.

It's Time

It's time to begin caring for your team. Pick one issue you know needs to be addressed...you might start by clarifying your own expectations with your team. Or it might be time to address the destructive behavior everyone knows about, but no one mentions.

If you need to practice, find a colleague and role play. If you can't find someone, contact me and I'll help.

Get started today. Your team needs you to care.

Read More:

• Why Great Leaders Know How to Say Goodbye
• Is the Golden Rule Wrong?
• The Only Way Out
• Book Review: Crucial Conversations
• Do You Commit These 5 Management Mistakes?

Take care,

David M. Dye

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Is the Golden Rule Wrong?

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The Golden Rule

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

In one form or another, you've probably learned this ancient wisdom and its call to treat others with value, dignity, respect, and compassion.

That's good stuff...and good so far as it goes.

Leaders Need More

And yet...leaders who follow the golden rule can find themselves with unproductive and unmotivated teams.

What's going on here? How can you treat people with respect and dignity and still have problems?

Effective leaders and managers understand that people have individual personalities. You meet people where they are and provide them what they need to be effective.

Examples:

If you are an introvert, content to be left alone and focus on your projects and you try to "do unto others as you would have done to you", you will find your extroverted team members wondering why you don't care.

If you enjoy the big picture and love ideas, your team members who need to understand details will quickly feel lost if you only give them the big picture you need.

If you prefer an especially indirect and tactful style of communication when others talk with you, your team members who need things said directly in plain language will wonder why you won't just say what's on your mind.

You get the idea - what works for us doesn't always work for others.

A New Rule

The Golden Rule isn't wrong - it serves an important role in helping us grow out of childish selfishness.

But effective leaders don't stop there. If you want your team members to be effective, you will:

Give them what they need, not what works for you.

Read More:

• Motivation: When Common Sense is Wrong
• You Don't Have to Be a Genius to Motivate Others
• Are You Throwing Away Influence?
• Stop Leading In Circles
• Do You Commit These 5 Management Mistakes?
• Book Review: The World's Most Powerful Leadership Principle

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David M. Dye

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Book Review: Management Mess-Ups

What Not to Do

Sometimes it's fun to define things by their negative...if you're not quite sure what you DO want, at least you can start with what you DON'T want.

I have taken this approach myself with a high-level look at management practices.

The subject of today's book review is the crown jewel of this strategy: Management Mess-Ups - 57 Pitfalls You Can Avoid (and Stories of Those Who Didn't) by Mark Eppler.

This is a great read for growing managers. Eppler provides an exhaustive list of essential management practices and real-world illustrations in a format that is easy to read and understand.

The 57 Pitfalls in Management Mess-Ups are organized into 13 sections including categories such as: Leadership, Communication, Motivation, Managing Change, Personal Development and, finally, "The Big One". More on this at the end the post.

Examples of specific pitfalls included in the list:

• Believing leadership is power instead of influence.
• Not meeting routinely with customers.
• Believing people will keep planting seeds if they don't participate in the harvest.
• Failing to manage conflict constructively.

The Big One

Eppler concludes Management Mess-Ups with a pitfall that garners its own section titled "The Big One". This management and leadership mess-up definitely deserves its own section and is particularly relevant for readers of this blog:

Failure to practice in reality what you learn in theory.

Final Thoughts

There is one danger in sources that tell us what to avoid - we can become so focused on avoiding trouble that we lose our focus on what we should be doing. (See I Looked for the Dry Places for more on this.) Management Mess-Ups is not one of these. Every mess-up is clearly related to what you DO want to do.

I strongly recommend Management Mess-Ups for any growing manager. It's fun and you'll recognize yourself in at least one or two stories.

Happy Reading,

David M. Dye

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Motivation: When Common Sense is Wrong

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Leadership Lyrics?

Don't look back / A new day is breakin'

Even if you've never heard Boston's classic rock lyrics, you're probably familiar with the popular advice: "Don't look back". Advocates of the "don't look back" philosophy will tell you to keep your eye on the vision, always look forward, forget about the past, etc. etc.

There are times where this is good advice, but...

On the Mountain

I live in the State of Colorado, right on the doorstep of the beautiful Rocky Mountains. I love hiking our majestic peaks, but I'm a big guy and some of these mountains are a real challenge.

Near the top where the air is thin, it might take me an hour or more to cover a mile. At times, everything in me says to give up, to go home...that I made it far enough. But I've found a secret that keeps me going. It's simple and powerful and you can do it.

Turn around and look down the mountain.

The power of the view beneath me is that it shows me what I've done...what I've already proven capable of. If I can get that far...certainly I can make it a little farther!

Sometimes, looking back is exactly what you need to do.

The Power of Looking Back

When you encounter frustrations and periods where you are overwhelmed - those times when you doubt if you'll ever accomplish your vision, I suggest you turn around.

Take some time to look at where you've been - what you have done, how you have grown, positive decisions you've made, and what you have learned.

If you've come this far, I know you can go a little farther.

Moving On

You're not looking back to linger in the past. 

You're looking back to take note of your own strength...to stand a little straighter...to be reminded that you've overcome obstacles.

With this fresh perspective you can look to the future and take one small step.

One step. That's all. So small you can't possibly fail to take it...

Then one more.

Take care,

David M. Dye

If You Would Like to Read More:

You Don't Have to Be a Genius to Motivate Others

Succeed With Your Critics

The Only Way to Grow

One Word to Freedom

Get Out of Your Way

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Are You Choosing Your Problems?

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Good News & Bad News

You have problems.

You are going to have more problems.

Solving today's problems allows you to tackle a whole new set of problems tomorrow.

Problems & Leadership

Problems, challenges, difficulties, struggles - whatever you call them, problems are not unique to leaders. Problems are part of living. If you are alive, you will have problems.

Leaders just choose a particular set of problems.

Choose Your Problems

You do not get to choose IF you will have problems.

But often, you do get to choose WHICH set of problems you will have.

Effective leaders don't spend time trying to avoid problems. Rather, they put their energy into working on the right set of problems. 

Which set of problems are the right ones? That depends on your values, vision, and goals. What are you trying to do? Which set of problems, once solved, will get you closer to where you want to be?

How It Works

Here's a sample we're all familiar with: We can choose a set of problems related to exercise - finding time, dealing with discomfort, etc. Or we can choose a set of problems related to carrying extra pounds and lack of strength.

Now for a leadership example: You have a team member who consistently under-performs and others team members are carrying extra responsibility. 

You've got a choice of problems: You can choose problems related to ignoring the situation - your team is stressed, the individual never improves their abilities, and your leadership credibility declines. 

Or you can choose problems related to addressing the situation - learning how to have performance conversations, being disliked or misjudged, and the discomfort of confrontation.

Each set of problems leads to different outcomes. Which do you want?

Freedom

There is great freedom when you realize that problems are unavoidable and begin choosing which ones you will have. No longer is your energy wasted in the hopeless effort of avoidance.

You will even find yourself energized as you live in alignment with your own values, vision, and goals.

Read More:

The Only Way Out
Lead from the In-Between
One Word to Freedom
Book Review: The Oz Principle
Book Review: The Question Behind the Question

Take care,

David M. Dye

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Book Review: How to Choose the Right Person for the Right Job Every Time

The bottom line isn't the bottom line: people are the bottom line.

Whether you are a manager hiring a team-member or a volunteer leader assembling a team, people are your most important asset. Having the right people doing the right things is vital to any team's effectiveness.

The subject of today's book review addresses the process with a bold claim: How to Choose the Right Person for the Right Job Every Time by Lori Davila and Louise Kursmark. Like most bold titles, this one can't fulfill all its promises. "Every time" after all is nearly impossible in any endeavor and the author's do acknowledge this.

However, How to Choose the Right Person is a great introduction for managers and leaders to the art of hiring and building teams. It really boils down to two key skills:

Skill #1: Defining what qualities are necessary to succeed in a specific role and in your specific team or organization.
Skill #2: Identifying individuals with those qualities.

How to Choose the Right Person walks you through both of these processes and provides many different examples to help you apply what you've learned.

A quick note for newer managers and leaders: After character and attitude, the most important thing to look for in prospective team members or employees is whether or not they are already doing what they will need to do in their new role. It is less important if an individual may not have been able to do the exact same type of work, may not have done lots of it, or may not have been paid for it.

If someone is not internally motivated to do what they would need to do in their new role, they aren't the best fit.

So if you are in an employment setting and limited to resumes and interviews, how do you know if someone has that internal motivation or has already been doing what they'll need to do?

How to Choose the Right Person advocates for Behavior-Based Interviewing. In short, the idea is to focus on questions about actual past behaviors, actual outcomes, and actual situations. While this may seem like a simple concept, if you've sat through many interviews, you've heard hiring managers ask all sorts of hypothetical questions, spend time talking about themselves, or ask about the candidate's opinions. These might be great social discussions, but they don't help you discover what people actually do.

If you have put in the time to clearly identify the qualities someone needs to be successful in a role and in your organizational culture, Behavior-Based Interviewing dramatically increases your chances of finding the right match.

I recommend How to Choose the Right Person for the Right Job Every Time for any leader or manager.

Happy Reading,

David M. Dye

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Are You Making Valuable Mistakes?

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If you're leading and moving forward, you're not going to get every decision right. 

Fear of making a mistake can paralyze new leaders. One way to overcome this fear is to realize that so called "mistakes" are a huge leadership opportunity.

The important thing is to make your mistakes valuable - to use them for all they're worth:

• Treat new projects as experiments. This gives you and your team room to try and learn without the pressure of perfection.
• When you do experience mistakes, examine the situation for what it has to teach you. 
• What happened that you didn't expect?
• Is it likely to happen again?
• How can you adjust your approach in the future?
• Try not to make the same mistake twice. Your real life experiences are the best leadership text book you'll ever have...but it's up to you to apply the lessons.
• Don't obsess on the past. Rather, focus on what you'll do next time. 
• Try re-framing "mistakes" as learning opportunities. If you honestly did your best to gather relevant information, got your team involved, and moved forward ethically, and it didn't work out - odds are it's not a mistake - it's an opportunity to learn how to be more effective next time!
• If you really did screw up and let down others: Apologize and do what you can to make it right. This doesn't undermine your leadership - you actually improve your leadership credibility and trustworthiness in these situations.

You can't lead without taking risks. 

Make informed, thought-out decisions with your team...but give yourself room to learn everything you can when it doesn't go the way you hope!

Read More:

That Didn't Work Out

Get Out of Your Own Way

Nine Ways to Access the World's Best Leadership Resource!

Four Habits to Make Better Decisions

Six Ways to Not Walk Naked Down the Street

Take care,

David M. Dye

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7 Steps to Make Your Great Ideas Succeed

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There are more PCs than Macs.

There are more Android phones than iPhones.

Whichever platform you personally prefer, the Apple products have had a major impact regardless of their smaller market share - you don't have to be the biggest or most prolific in order to be successful with a game-changing idea.

You might be frustrated at times when your big idea isn't adopted right away. You know vision and innovation are important, but how do you take those great ideas and give them a chance to become reality? 

Here are 7 steps to make your great ideas succeed:

1) Start small

Pilot everything - try the idea with as small a group as possible. This might be one person...or one team...or one classroom...or one building - whatever the smallest practice unit might be and for which you have responsibility. Start with people who can buy-in to the concept and implement it. Even if that is just you to begin with.

2) Learn from successes and failures

In your pilot effort, note what worked and, most importantly, try to determine why it worked. It's not always what you think. Then look at what didn't work. Can you make corrections?

3) Course correct and try again

Implement your lessons learned from successes and failures and try again...maybe with two or three pilot units. Are things working as you envisioned? If not, continue in steps 1 - 3 until you're comfortable to you can demonstrate results. Invite people, without pressure, to see what you're doing. Start with opinion leaders and those who you know have similar problems.

4) Quantify and qualify results

Take time to demonstrate the impact of your great idea. Tell the human story and show the numbers. For someone who has never thought this way before, what benefits does your idea have? What problems does it solve? In your pilots, you should have obtained some numbers and good stories.

5) Manage up and sideways

If you're a growing leader with great ideas, this might be a challenging step. You want to win support for your concept.

Begin with the values and problems of your coworkers and supervisors. What is important to them - how does your idea reinforce those values? What problems do they have - how does your concept solve their problems?

Note: If your big idea requires that the organization or your supervisors change their values or adopt problems they don't currently see or care about, this step requires a great deal more time and work. Start with education - "Did you know...? How do you feel about...? Have you considered...?" Present challenges and data in terms of their existing values and problems. Being pushy and self-righteous will not help you accomplish your goal.

If your idea is a good one and you can implement it, continue demonstrating the data and results. In time, you will be ready for:

6) Implementation

If your idea is adopted or you get the responsibility to take it further, this is a critical step: don't let a good idea wither by neglecting your "whys" and "whats"!

6a) Why

First, have "why" conversations with those responsible for implementing this idea. They have their own values and their own problems. Why should they care about your great idea? In fact, at this point it's no longer "your" idea - now it's an opportunity for everyone to be [safer / more effective / save money / make money / enjoy work / etc.]

Don't skip this step! Your idea relies on others understanding why they are doing it. People (including you and me) do what we have a personal interest in doing. This is one of the reasons you want to expose people to the idea during the pilots, to build excitement and personal connection.

6b) What

Once the "why" is very clear and people are invested in the solution, then move to the "what" - how to implement the great idea. What knowledge and resources do people need? What skills?

7) Monitor and Feedback
Just as you did during your pilots, keep an eye on what is and is not working. Don't ignore feedback you receive. Something that worked in the pilot might not make sense with a larger implementation. As you monitor and receive feedback, implement what you learn. As needed, revisit "whys" and "whats" - do they still make sense? Make changes as needed.

Size Isn't Everything

I began this post by referencing the smaller market share owned by Apple's computers and phones - your idea doesn't have to be used by everyone to change the world.

Take pride in your ideas and give them a chance to succeed. You might just revolutionize your organization or the world!

You Might Be Interested In:

Lincoln's Rule of Four

Do You Commit These 5 Management Mistakes?

The Garden of Ingenuity

I Looked for the Dry Places

Take care,

David M. Dye

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Book Review: Love 'Em or Lose 'Em

In sales, there is a saying that keeping an existing customer is worth far more than attracting a new customer.

It is often the same with personnel. Every team, every organization relies on skilled and motivated people.

The first key to assembling a great team is to keep the great performers you already have. Beverly Kaye and Sharon Jordan-Evans tackle how to do this in: Love 'Em or Lose 'Em: Getting Good People to Stay.

Marketing copy on the top of my edition lists Love 'Em or Lose 'Em as "the bestselling employee retention book in the world." While I can't say whether or not that is true, I can definitely tell you that the principles in Love 'Em or Lose 'Em are very sound.

Kaye and Jordan-Evans lay out their 26 engagement strategies in sequence of the English alphabet. For example: (A) Ask what keeps you? (B) Buck stops here. (C) Careers - support growth. (D) Dignity - show respect... You get the idea.

Additionally, Love 'Em or Lose 'Em begins with the a fictionalized, but realistic, memo from an performing employee who decides to leave. The employee give an overview of the reasons they chose to depart. The book then reviews its 26 engagement strategies by starting with a segment of the resignation letter.

For beginning managers and business leaders, it is important to understand that money might initially attract someone or keep them from leaving, but it does not motivate. Newer managers are often surprised by this. But it isn't too surprising if you reflect on your own behavior.

We do our best work when the work is meaningful, we are engaged and share values with the people we work with, we feel valued, and we feel we are making a contribution.

When these things are absent, we might not leave...but, organizations are full of people who have "quit" without leaving.

Love 'Em or Lose 'Em discusses these principles and others with readable and practical suggestions you can begin implementing immediately. Kaye and Jordan-Evans provide straight-forward advice to help you keep your performing staff.

But this isn't a book of shortcuts. Real relationships are built on authenticity and integrity, not on manipulative tricks. You won't find those in Love 'Em or Lose 'Em. At its heart, this book means what it says, if you legitimately care for your team members - including making hard decisions like helping or removing those not carrying their weight - your team is far more likely to stay, be engaged, motivated, and productive.

I recommend Love 'Em or Lose 'Em for any leader or manager. Even if you're a pro at taking care of people, you'll likely find one or two good reminders here.

Happy Reading,

David M. Dye

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You Don't Have to Be a Genius to Motivate Others

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Thank You

Thank you for reading.

Thank you for your shares, retweets, +1s, and emailing these posts on to others.

Thank you for leading - for the difference you are making in someone else's life.

Gratitude

I frequently write about the role of gratitude in effective leadership. 

We need the regular reminder. 

It's so easy in the urgency of our vision or the press of daily life to forget how much we are given.

Little Things

No one has to do anything for us.

Every act of service we receive...every kind word...every contribution of a team member...each of these is a gift for which we can be grateful.

Motivation

It is a simple thing - but most of us prefer to serve where there is gratitude.

I know of no source of motivation greater than the power of sincere thanks - it communicates respect, acknowledges another's dignity, and keeps the thanker humble.

Take care and Happy Thanksgiving to all my U.S. readers!

David M. Dye

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Eight Leadership Lessons from Tim Tebow

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Can Tim Tebow make it as an NFL quarterback?

More on that debate at the end of this post...

What is not up for debate are the leadership lessons we can learn from Tim Tebow.

I've met Mr. Tebow several times through my work in Denver, have watched him during games, and in interviews. Through two years and in every venue I've observed him, Tim Tebow has consistently demonstrated eight leadership principles:

1. Belief

One of the greatest gifts a leader brings to their team is belief - belief in the team, belief in the vision, belief that we can do this. Leaders believe when no one else does.

In just a few games as a starting quarterback, it is clear Mr. Tebow believes his team can win. That belief is contagious and brings out the best in everyone else.

2. Results

Effective leaders consistently focus on results. They regularly call their teams back to what they're trying to accomplish and make decisions on the basis of what will accomplish results.

Watching his celebration in the end zone after his most recent touchdown, it is clear that Tim Tebow is a competitor with an intense desire to win.

3. Humility

Effective leaders maintain a realistic sense of self. They know they're not perfect while also appreciating others' value and dignity. Humility is vital for leaders to establish credibility and maintain connection to their team.

In the times I've met Mr. Tebow, the characteristic that stands out most for me is his humility. So far, the incredible hype surrounding his short professional career has not gone to his head. 

I once heard him say that had he grown up in a different country or a different time, his skills as a football player would not be valued and no one would know him from anyone else. His sense of gratitude and having been 'blessed' is very real while he also knows he isn't all the press says he is - good or bad.

4. Perspective

Part of what keeps effective leaders humble is healthy perspective. That is, understanding how their work fits into a bigger picture and knowing what is most important.

After the Broncos' most recent win, Tim Tebow was asked how he maintains a level-head with all the media attention focused on him. He responded: This is just football. I'm able to help build a children's hospital in the Philippines - that's something that really matters. Tebow is a man of faith and it obviously informs every aspect of his life.

5. We Not I

Consistent with humility and a healthy perspective, effective leaders understand they are one person on a larger team and that everything that's accomplished is a product of that team.

Tebow consistently gives credit - not just to his team, but to the coaches. You just don't hear many professional athletes acknowledging the role their coaches play in the team's overall success.

6. Focus on Strengths not Weakness

"You cannot build on weaknesses...place a person in a position where his or her strengths can be fully utilized..." -Peter Drucker
"Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses.” – Marilyn vos Savant

Competence matters. Tim Tebow is an inconsistent throwing quarterback - his passing rating is one of the lowest in the league. However, he is a strong running quarterback and reads defensive schemes well. In a display of strengths-oriented leadership, the Denver coaching staff have modified their offense to make these strengths productive.

7. Focus on What You Can Control

Ultimately, the only thing we have control over is our own behavior and attitude. Effective leaders take responsibility for themselves, their influence, and for their own contribution to results.

In a recent press conference, when asked why he thinks he is such a controversial sports figure, Tebow responded by saying it doesn't matter because it's not something he controls. What he can control, he said, is working hard, practicing with his team, and trying to get better. So that's where he puts his focus.

8. Learn, Work Hard, Get Better

Effective leaders make learning and developing competence a priority. Stagnant leaders lose credibility and cannot, with integrity, ask their teams to grow.

Tebow knows his passing game needs work. During the week he spends many hours with coaches working on his skills. He puts in the time and is learning.

Sustained Results

Back to the question I asked at the beginning: Can Tim Tebow make it as an NFL quarterback?

I am no football expert - what I do know is in six games he has proven he can lead and produce results.

Whether or not he and his team will be able to sustain performance over time will depend on their ability to stay together, remain focused on results, react to a changing environment, learn from their mistakes and successes, and grow over time.

And that's true for any team.

Read More:

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4 Key Practices for Every Organizational Leader
Where are Your Eyes?
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David M. Dye

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Book Review: Encouraging the Heart

Do you want to build a team with ownership, hope, results, and pride? If so, the subject of today's book review will help!

Encouraging the Heart: a Leader's Guide to Rewarding and Recognizing Others by James Kouzes and Barry Posner is a follow up resource to The Leadership Challenge.

For those familiar with Leadership Challenge, this book, Encourage the Heart, is an expansion on one of their five fundamental leadership practices.

At the core of Kouzes and Posner's leadership framework is the notion of influence founded on credibility. Leaders influence others and a leader's credibility is fundamental to their ability to influence. Leaders can develop their influence through five leadership practices including Modeling the Way, Inspiring a Shared Vision, Enabling Others to Act, Challenging the Process, and the subject of today's book review: Encouraging the Heart.

I appreciate the authors' emphasis on Encouraging the Heart as an aspect of leadership credibility. Leaders have a tremendous opportunity and responsibility - leaders can extend dignity, respect, and worth and genuinely make the world a better place.

Encouraging the Heart challenges leaders to care about their people, while maintaining focus on the team's ultimate objective: results. From the beginning, the authors emphasize that part of truly caring about your people is to set clear standards and expect the best. These are expressions of dignity and worth.

With that foundation, Encouraging the Heart challenges leaders to pay attention, personalize recognition, tell stories about success and values, celebrate together, and to be an example for others to follow.

The authors cover their material with many real life stories that add to the case and leave the reader motivated and ready to engage their team. I appreciate that the book concludes with 150 practical ways to encourage others with a variety of options for each of encouragement practices the authors recommend.

I strongly recommend Encouraging the Heart for leaders who want to grow in their care of people and for those who recognize that encouragement is not their strongest gift. Some people are born encouragers - if you're not one of them, this book is for you!

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Lead from the In-Between

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Do you ever feel caught halfway between today and tomorrow?

You're not alone...but if you're leading it's a good place to be.

You maintain a constant vision of a better future. At the same time, you face a reality today which is not yet what you hope it will be.

This tension defeats many aspiring leaders. Some spend so much time dreaming about tomorrow that they do not give today the attention it needs. Others become so lost in today's challenges that they lose sight of their vision. In either case, the leader who stays too long in today or tomorrow will not remain a leader for long.

Effective leaders learn to manage the tension between today and tomorrow, to lead from the in-between.

Some practical tips to help manage this tension:

• Write down your vision or dreams for tomorrow.
• Set appointments with yourself to revisit your vision. Often you'll be surprised at the progress you've made and be inspired to continue. Other times you'll realize you want to make some course-corrections.
• Be very honest with yourself (and with your team) about where you are today. What are your team's strengths? What skills or resources do you need to acquire in order to accomplish the vision?
• Plan backwards. Start at the end - at the accomplished vision - and work backwards. If your vision is to double your impact in three years...where do you need to be in 2 years...in 1 year...in 6 months...in 1 month.
• Plan for today. Provide the most detail for your 1 month plan. These are the things you can practically do today to work toward your vision.
• Take time to reflect on your progress. Celebrate the small milestones - it reminds you and your team of the progress you've made and helps motivate for the next steps.
• Find company. Spend time with other leaders who experience the same tension (not to gripe...to encourage one another!)
• Give yourself space to reflect and permission to change your mind. It is okay to learn and refine your opinions over time.

This tension between today and tomorrow is the very essence of leadership.

Learning to lead from the in-between takes work, faith in the future, and belief in people.

...And I believe in you!

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David M. Dye

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Succeed With Your Critics!

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Why Can't They...?

It's happening again.

You have a great idea...you're trying to get a new project implemented...you're proposing a change that's better for everyone.

And that person starts asking questions:

• Have you thought about what will happen when...?
• Do you look at the data behind this?
• Did you consider this explanation?
• What if the problem is really caused by...?
• How will we resource this?

When confronted by a regular skeptic, many new leaders and managers groan (hopefully internally, but I've seen it happen aloud). These frustrated visionaries ask, "Why can't they just support an idea for once??"

The Faithful Critic

Allowing this frustration to get the better of you will deprive you of one of your best friends.

Effective leaders and managers learn to value faithful critics who challenge their ideas and help them sort out exuberance from real life.

You want your idea to succeed, right?

So try developing your ideas with folks who will do their best to make sure it's an effective solution with a strong foundation. Learn to anticipate their concerns and refine your plans in ways that address their relevant criteria. Every team can benefit from one faithful critic who is willing to ask tough questions.

The hard truth is that if your exciting plan can't survive a little scrutiny from those closest to it, then the plan probably isn't ready for implementation.

Faultfinders

I've been using the term "faithful critic" - that skeptic who wants to be sure things have been thought through and requires some evidence to make a decision. These are valuable team members.

In contrast, there are faultfinders - people who've never met an idea they liked, are critical by nature, and there is nothing you'll be able to do to win their support.

How to tell the difference? Generally, one question can help you tease out whether you have a faithful critic or a faultfinder: "What would it require for you to support this idea?"

A faithful critic talks about exploring options or looking at resources, data, and outcomes - things that strengthen the concept.

No matter what idea you discuss, a faultfinder denies there is a problem or refuses to give support under any terms.

Next Steps

Spend time with your faithful critics. Keep them close. Build ideas with them.

Educate faultfinders to the nature of the problems involved. Try to help them understand. If they remain faultfinders, don't spend extra energy on them and help them find teams / work where they will be happier.

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Book Review: The Go Giver

The subject of today's book review, The Go Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea, written by Bob Burg and John David Mann repackages some enduring human relationship truths in a business setting.

In the popular style of the instructional fable, The Go Giver tells the story of a frustrated salesman who feels that he is working harder and harder, but not getting ahead. He eventually seeks the help of a mysterious "Chairman" who sends him to speak with different individuals, each of whom shares one of five "laws of stratospheric success". Ultimately, the hero learns the lessons and begins experiencing the success he's after.

The title turns the familiar label of a go-getter on its head and suggests that the route to business success is not in trying to turn quick deals, but in authentically giving of yourself, helping people, placing others interests ahead of your own, and being open to receiving what others have to offer.

The Go Giver is a short (one or two sittings) read, and the concepts are easy to grasp. The fictional stories are inspiring and the bottom-line message is plain: generosity of spirit and service to others will bring business success.

I have two concerns with The Go Giver. First, the atmosphere feels mono-cultural and may inadvertently discredit the concepts for some readers. Second, the message delivered is really one about being a good human being. It's a vital message and important in today's world.

Selling the idea as a way to personally enrich yourself is tough for me to swallow because:

a) It's contradictory - trying to give authentically without a profit motive (but with a profit motive).

b) While the principles discussed are clearly important, running a successful business requires additional knowledge and skills.

c) There are plenty of kind and giving people in the world who do not make a ton of money.

In the end, The Go Giver succeeds in providing valuable reminders that living authentically and helping others is simply a better way to live. I agree that these provide a good foundation and way to do business for any person, but I could not in good conscience tell anyone they can expect financial "stratospheric success" as a result.

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The Only Way to Grow

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Where to Begin?

At some point in their journey, most growing leaders and managers feel overwhelmed. There is so much to learn, so many good ideas, so many areas that need attention...

And only one of you.

Good News

Let's begin with the good news: You can't do it all at once.

So let go of that internal pressure on yourself. There's no sense holding yourself to an impossible standard. Even worse, if you do, you will paralyze yourself or limit your credibility by frantically running around in a vain attempt to be everything simultaneously.

Start Small

Effective leaders and managers manage their own development by focusing on the power of habit.

Our brains aren't able to intensely focus on many different tasks at once. For instance, you are unlikely to succeed in casting vision, creating clear expectations, and encouraging everyone on your team if you are intensely focused on learning and implementing all three.

To overcome this limitation, pick just one thing and practice it regularly until it becomes a habit.

For example: Want to work on encouraging others?  Practice saying thank you and recognizing values-in-action at least three times every day. Once thanking and encouraging others becomes a habit, then you're ready to tackle another item.

It Takes Time

Effective leadership is not built overnight. As we build productive habits we will face challenges that throw us off our game. Be patient with yourself and when you get distracted, go back to your habit - start small and pick one way you can exercise that habit today.

You Can Do This!

Begin small.

Begin today.

You can do this. I know you can.

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Four Key Practices for Every Organizational Leader

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If you're leading an organization - whether a team, a company, or a group of volunteers - there are four things the organization requires to be successful. Effective organizational leaders consistently do these four things:

1. Focus on Results

Your organization exists to accomplish something. Organizational leaders keep everyone focused on those results. They will make changes in systems or personnel if either hinder the team's ultimate purpose.

Why does your team exist? What does it accomplish or produce outside of itself?

2. Develop People

People are the most important resource in any organization. Effective organizational leaders devote a significant amount of their time to ensuring people are properly trained, equipped with the resources they need, and matured as leaders.

Do your team members have the skills and resources they need to be effective? Who will carry the team's vision when you are gone? Are they carrying that vision now?

3. Cultivate Values

Every group of people has a culture of how it conducts business, how people treat each other, and how problems are resolved. Values are the foundation of this culture. Too often, values are just words on a wall. Effective organizational leaders consistently model, reinforce, and celebrate organizational values. As a result, they grow an organizational culture.

What are the unwritten rules in your team? How do people treat one another? How are problems resolved?

4. Promote Organizational Learning

Effective organizations regularly evaluate themselves against their environment and their own goals. Organizational leaders promote learning, not just at the individual level, but at the level of the team/organization. Effective leaders do not waste time placing blame for past problems, but continually ask their teams to think about how things can be done more effectively in the future.

How do you institutionalize learning? How does your team discover what worked and why it worked? How do they address future improvements?

More Than the Sum of Its Parts

Organizations are more than just a collection of individuals. They develop a life and energy of their own. As an organizational leader, your role is to actively develop that energy and keep it focused.

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Book Review: How to Win Friends and Influence People

There are few books in the self-help genre as widely known as the subject of today's book review: Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.

While it is a classic, I have to admit that I steered clear of it and did not read this one for many years. I found the title off-putting and perhaps manipulative. Some part of me just felt that we don't want to "win" friends as much as build friendships.

I'm reviewing How to Win Friends and Influence People because new leaders and managers are almost certain to have it recommended, there are genuinely helpful tidbits throughout the book, and I want to provide some information so you can prioritize it with your other reading.

The first thing to understand about Carnegie's classic is that it is written from a sales perspective. Whether you are corporate rep selling products, a fund raiser selling a cause, or a politician selling ideas, How to Win Friends is written with you in mind. You are not necessarily looking to build long-term friendships, but do need to establish rapport and trust if you are to succeed in your work.

That is what How to Win Friends and Influence People is really about. In my opinion it is a book on effective salesmanship, not necessarily effective leadership.

With that in mind, 80 years after it was written, many of Carnegie's concepts remain beneficial in most human relationships. A small sampling: show interest in the other person, help people get what they want, remember their name, admit it when you're wrong, be friendly and positive, don't argue, know your audience, etc.

On the topic of knowing your audience...there is one audience that will probably not care for this book: analytic personalities.

The writing style is packed with anecdotal stories illustrating concepts. It can feel like you're sitting with a friendly talkative uncle and at times you want to say, "Uncle, I get it! Can you move on to the next concept?" For analytic types, this way of writing can feel forced, disingenuous, and lacks the hard data to be convincing.

Carnegie even suggests that when trying to persuade, one should use stories, not logic. Again, for most people, stories that create emotional appeal or connection are legitimately more persuasive. But for some, the logic and data are vital.

Overall, I would recommend at least a quick skim of How to Win Friends and Influence People because it is so widely read and there are a number of common-sense suggestions which, if you aren't familiar with them, are very helpful. But when you read it, keep in mind it's goal is more about creating surface-level sales relationships than building deep friendships or establishing leadership credibility.

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